Let’s face it, we all have a list of things we’d love to change about our appearance. When I was at HLS, Emily and I were talking about our hair and how my hair is so straight and fine, while hers has a ton of curl and texture. We got to talking about how we both wished we had something somewhere in the middle. In a perfect world, right?
It’s taken me a long time to get to this point in my life, but I feel like I’m finally starting to accept my appearance. Although I’m short, I’ve been content with my height for most of my life. On the other hand, my list of changes has always been there:
I wish I wasn’t so pale
I’d really love to have darker hair
It’d be great if my torso was a little longer
If only I could be a little more muscular.
I wish I looked more my age.
That list, combined with comparing myself to others took away from my self-esteem. Lately I feel as though I’m coming to terms that I will never be tall, curvy, tan year-round, or have a long torso. It’s a regular occurrence that someone mistakes me for being a high school student even though I’ll be 26 this spring. Plus, have you seen my sister? She’s three years younger, but seven inches taller, tan, and absolutely gorgeous. Sometimes when I’m next to her, I feel like a little sister still stuck in an awkward stage.
However, all of my striving, wishing, and comparing won’t help the situation–it’s better if I play up the features that I do have–since many of them have their benefits. By learning to love what I have, I can be happy and confident with who I am–appearance and all.
I may be small-boned, but because of that, they usually have my clothing sizes in stock since they aren’t in the average category. My Nike shoes are almost always kids sizes–making them much cheaper than the women’s version. I rarely have to worry about dresses/skirts being too short since the hem line falls much further down on me.
I have friends that will say to me “I wish I was petite like you–it would make shopping a lot easier.” It really isn’t much easier–you end up running into the issue of the smallest size at the store is still too big so you can’t purchase the item you really wanted, your clothes always need alterations/hemming, cropped pants reach your ankles, and it’s hard to wear items such as wide-leg trousers and maxi dresses.
That being said, I’ve also been ten pounds heavier than my current weight (hello, freshmen 15) and ten pounds lighter (stressful years) and I am much happier, confident, and healthier where I am right now. Your body will operate best when your weight naturally falls right where it’s supposed to be for your body type and lifestyle.
We all have our good and bad days, but I’m challenging you to embrace what you have. Play up your best features and use them to your advantage. Learn to love what you have and don’t stress over what you can’t change due to genetics. Sure, you can change your hair color and whatnot, but stressing over being taller or having a different build isn’t going to add anything good to your life. Life is much happier and easier when you’re not working against yourself, so love what you’ve got.
What are 3 of your best features?