What does it feel like to be a momma?
I’ll cover this more in my postpartum post, but I’m so surprised at how natural this transition has been. It has been so rewarding — especially when your baby is crying and he stops as soon as you pick him up (cue the heart eyes emoji). I’m also SO excited to start taking him on little adventures — even just going to Starbucks and grabbing a sandwich from Chick-Fil-A the other day was so fun knowing that my little sidekick was in the backseat. We will start taking him out more once it warms up outside (the high for tomorrow is -16 degrees!) and once he is a little older since he is still building up his immunity right now.
What were your emotions throughout the day?
Mainly excitement that something was finally happening after waiting for so long and the thought of getting to meet our son! There was also some fear of the unknown around the whole birthing process but I feel like my mind and body adapted as I transitioned through the stages of labor.
How did the first few days at home with him go?
The day after we got home from the hospital was a little rough mainly due to lack of sleep. I also felt like I was overly concerned about everything — making sure he was breathing, eating, and pooping enough, etc. Fletcher also woke up that first morning at home looking awfully yellow from the jaundice and I was so worried about that! Luckily, our pediatrician was able to get us in that afternoon so that helped put my worries aside when she didn’t seem too concerned about the bilirubin levels. Now that he’s been with us for over two weeks, I’m feeling a lot more relaxed about a lot of things (but will admit I’m still a spazz about some things).
How do you balance being productive and having a newborn?
I’m a huge believer in routines and systems so having those established before we came home from the hospital was definitely a beneficial factor in things running smoothly. For example, we still are staying on top of laundry, dishes, groceries, etc. even with a newborn — this helps things feel less overwhelming. Clutter stresses me out so much so putting in a little effort each day in terms of tidying up has made a huge different in keeping our house feeling calm.
I also have been using his nap times to power through and get things done — even if it’s just tidying up a bit or taking some time for self care. I also use the time in the evenings when Andy is home to do something for myself — for example, we will all hang out as a family, but then when Andy is spending some time holding Fletcher, I’ll take a quick bath and paint my nails or something. It’s little things like this that honestly help me so much because it not only helps me feel refreshed, but it also taps into who I was before I became a mom, if that makes sense. I think it’s so important to continue to have hobbies, plans, an identity, etc. even after having a baby.
What surprised you most through his birth and first few days?
I was honestly surprised at how naturally labor / delivery came — I swear, your body and instincts just take over. I was not, however, expecting how challenging having your milk come in would be though. Dealing with engorgement for a few days definitely caught me off guard and honestly was one of the most uncomfortable things. It is SO much better now but I was texting my momma friends like crazy those first few days with a million questions about how to get some relief!
What did you use out of your hospital bag?
Like most first-time moms, I way overpacked! I really only used my nursing tank, makeup + shower gear, flip flops for the shower, toiletries (mouthwash, toothbrush, lip balm, dry shampoo, etc.), phone charger, Gatorade, and some fruit that I brought from home. This honestly surprised me so much because I’m definitely one of those people that enjoys the comforts of home whenever I travel but I think with all of the emotions and things going on, I really didn’t care about much other than spending time with Andy and Fletcher during our hospital stay. The only thing that Andy had to run home and grab was my breast pump which wasn’t necessary, but I wanted to do a run through with our lactation consultant before heading home and trying to figure it out on my own (while being super sleep deprived).
Can you share a day in the life as a newborn parent?
I’ll probably do a whole post about this once we get into a better routine (this is my goal for this week!) You can catch a glimpse of our first few days at home in this post along with Fletcher’s first day with just me in this recap!