My aunt once said to me "the twenties are hard," and I couldn't agree more. Fresh out of college, you think you have it all figured out, then you realize how little you know once you're out in the real world. What a humbling moment that is.
Once your mid-twenties hit, you go through so much change and transformation -- trying to figure out how you fit into the world. Learning how to balance working, finances, and figuring out how a 401k works.
As I've recently reached the last year of my 20s, I finally feel like I'm almost to the other side. The upper 20s are spent working to define your personal style, choosing your friends wisely, investing in yourself, and most importantly -- realizing what didn't work for you and how to adjust accordingly.
Below are 10 things that I've learned in my 20s that I wish I would have known 10 years ago!
- Nothing is worth it if you aren't happy. This includes jobs, relationships, and large savings accounts.
- Not every minute of your day needs to be productive. I remember when my boss at my first design job told me this after I was getting so antsy after completing projects without having another one to start right away.
- Don't chase after people, their effort will reveal their level of interest in you. So much wasted time and effort! My best friend, Allie, and I have maintained our friendship since 8th grade despite living 3,500 miles apart for many of those years.
- You don't owe anyone an explanation behind your decisions. At the end of the day, you're the one that has to live with them.
- Boundaries are the key to healthy relationships. Set boundaries with yourself, your family, your friendships, and your work.
- Invest in quality over quantity. This includes choosing friends, your wardrobe, and the food you consume.
- The importance of dressing well. Not only will you feel more confident, but others will take you more seriously.
- Be your own advocate and stand up for yourself. You know yourself best and it's important to always have your own back.
- Stress affects the whole body. Learn stress-management techniques and make them part of your daily routine.
- Accept who you are and embrace it. This is where true confidence comes from.
What's something you've learned about yourself recently?